Love is a universal language that has been investigated throughout human history. Its meaning has been studied by various fields of knowledge, from sociology, anthropology, psychology and even astrology.
But what happens is that this feeling sometimes becomes the central axis of many women’s lives and the search for it ends up being, for them, an indicator of success in life.
Therefore, Skokka considers it is relevant to analyse this collective emotional distortion, which ends up harming without them realizing it. And with the help of the hottest indian escorts Melbourne, Skokka Australia will delve into the subject.
The myth of romantic love
Looking for the half of the orange, the prince charming, that person who will miraculously transform the whole of life, who by holding one’ s hand nothing else matters. Sounds familiar, doesn’t it?
And the fact is that almost every piece of content that people come into contact with: be it films, songs, poems, advertisements, video clips or art, reinforces the theme of romantic love. Chocolates, cuddly toys, flowers, a visit to the Eiffel Tower, are elements that give them a romantic charge and therefore enhance in many cases the creation of a fictitious and aspirational love.
Many women -even through their families- have been formed by this notion of fantasy love, and that is why sex and relationship professionals, such as experienced independent Melbourne escorts, emphasize that it is very important to know what happens when these expectations are not fulfilled.
Negative deployment of romantic love
Idealisation
The first and perhaps most predictable negative consequence of romantic love is idealisation. To idealise the perfect partner is, in all cases, extremely detrimental. If committed to a relationship, one may start to compare one’s partner to a friend’s partner, or even to a public figure, thus diminishing the real characteristics of the person as an individual. In the case of singles, it can be even more complicated, considering that some people may never even get into a relationship, because they always consider the suitor insufficient by their standards.
Endless pursuit
If people spend their lives hearing that they have a better half lost in the world, that sooner or later they will find her or him and be happy, it is clear that it leads to a never-ending pursuit. It is never healthy to start a relationship out of necessity, and that is what happens when people do not feel complete until they find their “ideal partner”.
“Love can do it all”.
This is, without a doubt, one of the most damaging beliefs for women when it comes to relationships. No, love cannot do everything. At the slightest indication of disrespect, aggression, incompatibility, cheating or whatever, it is not the woman’s responsibility to fix it in the name of love. At the slightest sign of discomfort, one must walk away.
“Marriage is for life”.
Following on from the previous point, this is another myth that society imposes. And it comes from ancient times, where marriages were supposed to last a lifetime. But what has to be taken into account is that women have been silenced, educated to be tolerant and to please their husbands at any cost. Maybe that’s why unions lasted longer. But the question is: at what price?
Obsession and ownership
In a society that often reflects jealousy as a proof of love, it brings issues of obsession to the table. A theme that is well illustrated in one of the latest Netflix premieres that has quickly become a trend and a topic of debate in the networks: YOU.
In the series, the main character Joe meets Beck, a perfect girl in his eyes. He becomes obsessed with her and does everything he can to win her over. According to him, he will “protect her” and “give her everything she needs”. Because he perceives himself as everything she needs. YOU is a good kick to review a concept that for some should be outdated by now, but for others is still valid: the romanticisation of jealousy.
The norm is understood as everything that is considered appropriate and that meets the expectations of others. Society has always created rules and labels for ethical, moral and behavioural concepts. Many of them, in fact, provide humanity with the best way to relate to each other as individuals within a collective. But others, on the contrary, dictate the way of living, close and imprison the freedom of thought and the way of dealing with life for many people.
But assuming that each person is different and unique, do the formulas really apply equally?
Acts of love are as diverse as people. And debunking the myth of romantic love can make relationships healthier and happier. If what is sought is pure pleasure, contacting one of the prepaid women in Popayan would be enough, and it would not be necessary to go through all kinds of situations to find that ultimate ideal that is love.
